Day 18: a picture of your biggest insecurity

Yup, drinking coffee. No but seriously.

I am getting there. I no longer feel the occasional disagreement means that the divorce court is the next inevitable step; in fact I never believed it was. I went into marriage with full knowledge of the statistics, but also the knowledge that while most people still stay married, most don't get a book published, and I accomplished that so how much more likely is staying happily married?

Shame insecurities are not rational.

The triumph of hope over experience

Jane Felix-Browne, who has been married six times, is about to divorce no.6. (He is not a number, he is a free man.) I'm a believer both in marriage and in second chances but there comes a time when even my optimism is strained. None of the obstacles to a happy marriage were insuperable, but they must have had a cumulative effect:

• She's 51, he's 27
• He's the son of Osama bin Laden

Ms Felix-Browne is confident they will re-marry; not clear if she means to each other.